Posts by Bumble Bee

they are all very very close, their children are very close, they get together every sunday for brunch, each sibling takes a turn at having it at their place.

Bumble Bee

Thank you all for your responses. We are a family here!

Babygirl - I wish you lived closer - we could be sisters!

BFD - you know I luvs ya! You're like a big brother to me.

We get along great, but, 90% of what I'm thinking I can't share with them. I feel like they have no the slightest clue who I am.

cognac - I feel the same way! My family doesn't really know the "real" me, they only see what they want to see.

I see what you are saying J-O - my step mother was never good at that, still isn't. I have no problem with sending out the invites, I just have a problem when you keep inviting, and they don't show up when they say they are going to. .

((((((nj))))) - I do have wonderful memories of my grandmother, and have some really cool aunts and uncles (non JW).

But I am gonna give you a bit advice ( again!!! you say).Why not write a letter to the one you saw on Facebook asking for donations. Tell her you would have loved to have participated in that quest.

Grace - I always listen to your advice - you have so much life experience to share with us all. Mem did send a message to our neice when we found out after the fact, but didn't hear back. Teenagers have other things on their minds, aunt's and uncle's don't really rate first priority! lol As for talking to the parents, been there, done that, and right now I'm not up to the emotional battle. It seems to fall on deaf ears anyways.

You and your husband are each others' family. People don't always find a wonderful mate to share their life with. Someone they actually like being around. But you have, so treasure that.

momz - thank you for that!

Cats are evil. My estate's going to Rocco.

FF

Freedom Frog - we should get together and have a big birthday party to make up for all the ones we missed out on!

Thank you for your kind words Jamie

CoCo - reading all the kind words and responses has certainly brightened my day!

BB

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Family :-(

by Bumble Bee in

do you ever wish your family was different than what you have?

i would so love to have the type of family a friend of mine has.

they are all very very close, their children are very close, they get together every sunday for brunch, each sibling takes a turn at having it at their place.

Bumble Bee

Do you ever wish your family was different than what you have? I would so love to have the type of family a friend of mine has. They are all very very close, their children are very close, they get together every Sunday for Brunch, each sibling takes a turn at having it at their place. They vacation together, do things together etc, are all very supportive of each other.

I should have a huge family, there are basically three sides, my fathers, my mothers and my step mother and I have 5 siblings and unfortunately none of us are close. For whatever reason, after my mother died, her side of the family pretty much forgot about us. My father, after he was DF'd for smoking in the early '70's never really re established contact with his brother (my uncle that just passed away) who was his only sibling. I would see my aunt and uncle and cousins when I"d visit my grandparents, but they never came to our place, or kept in contact unless I was in visiting gran. My step mother has a pretty close knit family, but with her being the only JW, we were on the fringe there too.

I've tried over the years to get closer to my older siblings, but for one, they are much older than I (ranging from 7 to 13 years) and didn't want to have anything to do with "the truth" so my parents did not allow me to associate with them, so it's very hard now to establish a relationship with them (that's just one reason).

I have a younger half brother and sister. My brother is now out of the JW's (yah!!) and I really thought we'd have a better relationship now, but it's still been very hard to get closer. Over the years I've tried, inviting them over for dinners, bbq's, up to our cabin etc, and while things will be ok for a short time, it's like he and his family pull away or forget about Mem and I. I call to talk and they have call display and never answer the phone, leave a message and am lucky to hear back from them (but don't not return thier call!! ouch). There is more, but that's the short version.

What prompted these thoughts today was 1) finding out days after that my uncle had died, and 2) finding out on Facebook this morning that my niece is out of province on a special school trip - it would have been nice to have talked to her before she left and give her some money for the trip (I found out after the fact that there were fund raising things for this trip that I would have gladly contributed to if I had of known).

There are people that I"ve met from here that I'm much closer to than my own family, and while I'm soooooo happy for that, just wish I could have the same relationship with my "real" family.

I now know why people cut off all contact with their family, or leave their estates to their cat or something - it just hurts too much to let them in your life sometimes.

This "hot and cold" is just getting to be too much for me to cope with.

BB

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Check out this JW on this dating site

by What-A-Coincidence in

jw
friends

click to see his pictures.

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member4736848.htm.

i live in the bloomfield hills area....i'm 21 and not a crazy drinker...i have 1-2 beers and i stop...don't need a dui.

Bumble Bee

I own a '88 Mercury Grand Marquis that I'm building up to be a Hot Rod. So far, the new motor is in, but still needs some tweaking.

Is that really an appropriate service car???

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Check out this JW on this dating site

by What-A-Coincidence in

jw
friends

click to see his pictures.

http://www.plentyoffish.com/member4736848.htm.

i live in the bloomfield hills area....i'm 21 and not a crazy drinker...i have 1-2 beers and i stop...don't need a dui.

Bumble Bee

Well, when the first thing a woman would see when she opens the profile is "Jehovah is first in my life" what woman in their right mind would want to play second fiddle? Geeze, reading what he's written, it's no wonder he's only had two girlfriends, in fact I'm surprised he's had that many!

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I have a HUGE dilemma and I need your help/advice

by Bumble Bee in

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friends

ok i posted a couple weeks ago that my uncle was dying.

i just found out today that he passed away on february 28th (yeah i know, i'm always the last to know these things).. ok, here's the problem - his funeral is scheduled for march 15th.

they couldn't have it this saturday, apparently there is something going on at gillead and people that would be attending the funeral will be there instead.

Bumble Bee

BB, the words JW big wigs would make me run screaming.

Yeah me too Dinah - although part of me is curious as to who will be there - do you think I could get autographs??

Parakeet - I said the same damn thing when I left - and so far I've been able to avoid it for 6 years.

You go only if you need to in order to help you grieve (seems irrelevant in your case), or in order to support those who were close to the deceased as it helps to know that a lot of people cared about them.

Sass - I thinnk someday it will hit me, but strangely enough, I really don't feel much right now.

Pope John absolves you of all guilt. Go in peace my child,

Thank you JK

If it is a matter of telling them you are coming or not, and you just don't want to make the call and say no, Tell them yes, and the day of or day before, tell them you have fever, and diarrhea. That will make them tell you to stay away.

Damn HL!! NOW you tell me that! lol That really made me laugh! Thanks! LOL LOL

You are brave for RSVPing to say you wont be there. I have come to the conclusion that we waste too much time and energy on things we feel we "should" be doing out of responsibility. Have a drink in honour of your uncle at the St Paddy's day party and enjoy yourself!

You are right, PDB, and nvr expressed similar thoughts. I know I'm certainly guilty of that, and it's something I've been working on. My uncle was Irish, and he did like to have a drink, so I think we'll take a moment and raise a glass to him.

And perhaps in lieu of flowers send a donation in his name to a worthy cause, perhaps the Canadian Red Cross or blood bank?

Well, considering he died because of refusing blood - maybe I'll donate some blood so someone else can live.

Gopher - that girl is amazing! Thank you!

I just want to say how much I appreciate you all - it really means alot to me!

BB